While anyone can become a father by giving birth to a child, it is truly tough to become a dad, especially when you have a son to raise. Young boys can be hyperactive and setting boundaries for them as well as disciplining them as a father can be difficult. A father son relationship is one of the most important ones as a father truly influences his son and is a role model for him in all types of situations. And although mothers are known to be all rounders when it comes to parenting, raising a son can certainly be stressful for them and that is when a father comes into the picture.
As a role model for his son, he does not have to be picture perfect; after all to err is human. He can too make the smallest mistakes or even the biggest blunders of his life. However, a supportive father is all a son needs while growing up into adulthood to become a better man. He must be protective of him and always have his back. While growing up, his son will certainly make mistakes , just like he did, but it will only make him learn.
The role of a father in a son’s life is a big one and keeping that in mind, we have listed out why a son needs his dad around while growing up. Have a look:
To Love His Mother
The first woman in your son’s life is his mother and the way you treat his mother, is the way he will treat her. If you treat your wife or his mother with respect, he will learn that from you and treat her in a similar manner. Even if you have separated from his mother or are divorced, try your best to not snap at her and treat her with respect as a mother and son relationship is quite important as well, and he will be looking up to you. The way you treat his mother is the way he will be treating his mother, his sisters and the other women that come in his life later on as he grows up.
To See You Fail
While your son is still young, he will be looking up to you, watching your every move. We all know and have understood that failures are great teachers, so even though you might have succeeded in life a lot, you might fail as well. And that is when your son will be noticing you, that is how you react. You need to handle the failure well, rather than getting drunk for making a mistake that led to that failure as he will be looking up to you as well as trying to imitate you. You need to make your son understand that even if someone fails in life, it does not mean that he cannot succeed in life again.
For You to be Present
As a man of the house you might be fulfilling multiple roles, personally and professionally. However, your son needs you to be present for him as well, whether we talk about his education, his birthday, his first job or something else. Not all roles are supposed to be fulfilled by his mother, his siblings or his friends. As a father, he needs your support in many situations whether he is having his first drink or is about to get married. A father needs to assure his son that he will be present for him whenever he needs him.
For Your Unconditional Love
Yes, you might certainly love your son. But is it unconditional? Would you love him if he comes out of the closet? He might not play football and would prefer to wear makeup instead. Would you still love him? These are the questions that your son needs to be answered. Your son needs you to love him regardless of what choices he makes. You might not like the woman he is choosing to marry, however, he still needs you to love him (as well as his fiance). Your love and guidance will open the door to trust and acceptance that build your relationship. And it will build his self-esteem.
For You to Affirm Him
Certain affirmations from you to him will definitely encourage him in life and it would not be hard work for you to do so. “I love you, son.” “I’m proud of you, son.” “You are amazing, son.” “I know you can do it, son.” “That was an amazing play you made!” “You are a hard worker.” “You messed up, but I know you’ll bounce back.” Your son needs your encouragement. He needs to hear the words that let him know you love having him as a son.
The job of a father is not easy, especially when he is raising a young boy. Boys make a ton of mistakes and disciplining them can be hard, even for fathers. However, this does not mean that they let go of their job as a dad and make the mother do all of the parenting. The role of the father is tough but important as well in a son’s life.
With a father as a good role model in their life, a young boy can become an amazing man as he grows up into a full grown adult. A father’s guidance and teachings can truly turn a young boy into a gentleman and make him understand the value of others in life, especially the women in his life, whether she is his wife, his sister or a friend. He learns how to respect, love as well as take care of others in his life unconditionally.