It is an unfortunate reality that suicide rates among men have remained alarmingly high. The steady increase in male suicide cases underscores the urgency of addressing this issue. It is crucial for every man to remember that life is a precious gift, regardless of the challenges he may be facing. To provide valuable assistance in preventing suicide, we've compiled a list of books that offer support and guidance.
Suicide is no longer a shocking occurrence, especially among men, who have a disproportionately high suicide rate. While women also experience suicidal thoughts, men are more likely to act upon them. While not all suicide attempts by men result in completion, they are at a higher risk of making repeated attempts, which can have fatal consequences. Men often contemplate suicide when they experience feelings of hopelessness and believe they have no one to turn to.
There are common risk factors that contribute to this, including:
Bullying at school, college, or work
Divorce or relationship breakups
A history of physical or sexual abuse.
Loss of a loved one.
Difficulty forming or maintaining meaningful relationships.
Social isolation or living alone.
Using drugs and/or alcohol to cope with emotions, relationships, work pressure, or other issues
Additionally, societal expectations around traditional male gender roles often discourage men from expressing vulnerability, as it is seen as a sign of weakness. Many men tend to suppress their emotions, no matter the challenges they face, and are encouraged to "man up." However, this approach does not address the mental fatigue that can lead to severe decisions, such as suicide. We've curated a list of books that can help men see the brighter side of life and prevent suicide.
Here are some recommendations:
1. "Reasons to Stay Alive" by Matt Haig
This book beautifully illustrates the cliché that "there is a light at the end of the tunnel." Author Matt Haig, who has battled depression himself, shares his journey of overcoming depression one day at a time. He emphasizes the role of reading, writing, parental support, and the love of his partner in helping him appreciate life. If you're struggling with depression, this book offers much-needed inspiration.
2. "No Time to Say Goodbye: Surviving the Suicide of a Loved One"
by Carla Fine
Author Carla Fine empathetically explores the overwhelming emotions of confusion, guilt, shame, anger, and loneliness that often plague those who have survived a suicide attempt. Drawing from her own experiences and conversations with survivors and mental health professionals, Fine provides valuable coping strategies. If you've survived a suicide attempt, this book can provide support and guidance.
3. "Night Falls Fast: Understanding Suicide" by Kay Redfield Jamison
Kay Redfield Jamison combines historical and scientific perspectives on suicide, interwoven with personal essays on individual cases. Her compassionate approach, literary prowess, and extensive research contribute to a deeper understanding of the suicidal mind, risk recognition, and the impact on those left behind. If you're grappling with suicidal thoughts, this book offers valuable insights.
4. "Shattered: From Grief to Joy after My Son’s Suicide" by Rebecca Tervo
Losing a child to suicide is an unimaginable pain for any parent. In this book, Rebecca Tervo shares her journey of picking up the shattered pieces of her life after her 17-year-old son took his own life. Through counseling and soul-searching, she and her grieving family found a path toward joy once more. If you've lost a loved one to suicide and are navigating the depths of grief, this book may provide solace.
It is a common challenge that men are often reluctant to seek help for their mental health or emotional issues, fearing stigmatization in society. In such circumstances, suicidal thoughts can become overwhelming, convincing men that suicide is their only way out. However, the books listed above offer a glimmer of hope, providing a means to escape the darkness and discover the silver lining in life. We encourage you to pick up at least one of these books, as even a single read has the potential to change your life for the better.
Written by: Deepti Dogra
Edited by: Aniket Joshi